Archive for March, 2009

boy

March 26, 2009

can’t remember childhood without you, carrots shakes a tender way 

the only one with time to listen, to really care … I feel weird 

you will always be with me

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breastfeeding glam

March 25, 2009

Was reading this post about an article of some woman downsizing breasfeeding to a glam-show off-snuff  display, and I got so upset, maybe cause to me breastfeeding has to do more with a continuing natural connection nothing related to whom anyone ever has to say. But today I saw what the woman was talking about, the hipper mom breastfeeding and smiling like a fool to every single thing that was not even said, going organic and attached beyond the limits of sanity… even I felt a side… however  breastfeeding is not to be blamed for fundamentalism, it is consumerism that has found  a great market in the “save the earth and yourself  moms”, exploiting all those desires of  this model “type” of mom to their full potential.  To this point I can understand the author left out feelings, but why she had to jump into all of that medical stuff, when most of  what science offers is divided male dominated crap, sorry to say it like this but you have to be really stupid to think that cows milk is better for a human baby than her own’s mothers milk, I don’t need Bacon’s science to realize it. I don’t dig science from one side or the other, each of us mothers should try to follow our own instincts and stop the critical mouth against one and other, I will continue to promote breastfeeding cause I truly believe there is something magical about it but I will never judge or set aside to the margin the woman that has a different choice… because we are what we decide to be and if we are not then it is not a matter of choice.

women’s day

March 8, 2009

oh!  just discovered that today is “women’s day”,  because we need one day a year to celebrate ourselves, or maybe to race out our issues in 24 hrs… so cruel but someone will listen, well I really cannot say a thing cause my knowledge on the celebration is rather short. I am just hopping that this is not a valentines day where everyone but the real women get something out from it…

gender equality

March 8, 2009

for some strange reason I continued to read some of the gender-environmental reports linked to a UNDP source, all these projects placing women under the race to achieve gender equality while reclaiming technology and other things that have been given, they have a very cynical scope… 

a woman has serious issues if continue to believe that gender equality will bring about the answers to every unjust matter on earth. Both gender equality and gender inequality are ruled by the same patriarchal principles which enable violence and destroy diversity. And then who assumes that all of men conditions are the desirable goal to attain for a woman is more than feeble, we should model and be the model of our own desires, dreams and realities. 

Equality as under the patriarchal staggering is useless to a woman which survival threatens the prevalence of the male absolute freedom.

but then again all the discourses around equality are relative to the diversity of the one woman reality, we can not think for all cause as our  beginnings are the catalyst of so many distinct roads.

“daycare”

March 5, 2009

finally i found a proper alternative for us…

a place where babies play with artists and musicians without the harsh of separation, and without the anxiety for the others. a friendly open doors place where parents are welcome anytime any day. there is no secrecy 

however i keep on thinking that a baby doesn’t need extra daycare, we mothers and parents have been commercialized to the point where we believe that our own resources and caregiving skills are never enough, never.  to raise full happy persons we strive contact from the others those who are specialized masters of  stimulation… crap! 

I like this choice because is not essential, they don’t claim to be that way, they accept and encourage the primacy of the essential relations and they stay on the margin to be just a little hand for when mom needs some extra voice.  

oh well this is all theory lets see how it turns out while on praxis..!

extended breastfeeding

March 4, 2009

this past few weeks I’ve met many extended breastfeeding moms and babies!

well only about 2 but in such diverse contexts that these encounters made me really happy .

it still seems as if we (extended breastfeeding women) are a bit afraid of what others have to say or think about it. I reached the point where I really really don’t give a damn for strangers! they can comment, make faces, piss off and I don’t even notice. but I most confess that sometimes I do feel like explaining when its someone that we will be seeing regularly, as for the new plaza friends and swimming pals… I was relieved from that pain as they do “extended” breastfeeding as well. It feels good to know that not only the people at la leche league  understand what you do in this world as it is hard enough to listen and follow your own instincts when everyone else flows in a different way…

I hope the next time the topic crosses my fingers I will be able to be totally contemplation free!

diarrhea

March 4, 2009

 

mpalm3

 

so many things have happened while swimming in the river, maia’s  first camping trip ended up in a stinky diarrhea…

which despite all its messiness, it affects the worst her mood, as if she knew it was contagious even though she is smiling, dancing and watching,  she does not want to be touched, kissed, hugged etc… unless its done from a reasonable distance, I feel so attached to her and for the first time she is not in the mood for sweet motherly loovee… it aches a little!    

maia in her own world! ahh!