Archive for the ‘daycare’ Category


September 1, 2009

today was her first stay without mom in the classroom… the teacher came to see me once just to say that she was doing great: “running around with her new friend”, it gives me a very strange feeling to see Tara so little (two in a few days) getting into her first glimpse of this world…

i searched for a special kindergarden, hoping to find something on the waldorf or montessori line, but around this part of the world i found very few alternatives and they were not available cause of distance, age or time… in the end we had to settle with a “regular” place… where toots in a class do the same things, under the same directions…

she is now enjoying the interaction with other little ones… and will come here only for 3 hours a day, for 3 months…before we move, but i’m still worried that this time will be enough to shut her brave spirits and tempered head! the problem worsens when i talk about this worry and no one seems to understand… i go for a lunatic… which i much rather be!  but then I hit the reality at work (with street children) and there i enter an existential contradiction that can’t be avoided!

babies, toots, children are so magical, so precious



May 25, 2009

even the most wonderful daycare sucks… as what ever the father does will never truly be enough

and then again patriarchy is to be blamed, I don’t know maybe is about the wrong people in a 

beautiful place, the load of work as for us has brought upon boredom and desinterest

daycare sucks!

May 25, 2009

I was so trilled about the idea of stepping away for a couple of hours, only about 2 days a week, to breath and relax, read and work… but it was not going to work for me in this wonderful bohemian/romantic daycare fantasy… babies avoided each other when not hating, hitting or biting… plus the idea of leaving her all alone with them under the sight of someone that didnt seemed quite there, was too much to handle 2 months ago…

now at about one year and 8 months, all alone in the cow land, I’m feeling the need for a bit of space on my own, to be able to cope happily with all this attachment and separations that have been going around, she is growing, she is becoming, she is beautiful… i need space, and so does she, i feel it but i still have all those fears that hunt me… specially about that “what if she needs me while i’m away”… if she feels i abandoned her, maybe right there, there is too much of me and my childhood…

i really wish I could find the right place, i know for many there is no choice… she should be able to interact with other children, other adults… all our close resources are so far away… in different corners of the world, wish i could fly them one at the time for some hours only, i know i should rest a little and i love her so


March 5, 2009

finally i found a proper alternative for us…

a place where babies play with artists and musicians without the harsh of separation, and without the anxiety for the others. a friendly open doors place where parents are welcome anytime any day. there is no secrecy 

however i keep on thinking that a baby doesn’t need extra daycare, we mothers and parents have been commercialized to the point where we believe that our own resources and caregiving skills are never enough, never.  to raise full happy persons we strive contact from the others those who are specialized masters of  stimulation… crap! 

I like this choice because is not essential, they don’t claim to be that way, they accept and encourage the primacy of the essential relations and they stay on the margin to be just a little hand for when mom needs some extra voice.  

oh well this is all theory lets see how it turns out while on praxis..!


November 8, 2008

why is so hard to believe that a normal, prepared, whatever woman would prefer to stay at home for the baby’s first years? A woman should go right back to work for her independent self to remain intact, why should one be running off from place to place to meet the demands of everyone around, self, baby, partner, feminist friends, relatives, and macho strangers? however this goes in both directions: why there are bad mothers who abandon their children for self driven desires of work? Why they have to finish beyond exhaustion to meet their needs and the needs of their babies?

what ever we decide we’ll be judged for.

indeed our diversity should be respected but first in this fucked up world we need to create the space where every woman, child, animal, being would have a choice other than slave work.